Work In Progress

The truth, drumroll please, you can't do everything.

Whoa, that truth proclamation just released some major tension in my neck. If you are like 99.9% of the world who is trying to do everything including: drink 8-8 ounce glasses of water daily, workout 1-3 times a week, stay away from the news and off social media consistently, and breath. Then welcome to the club of 'work in progress.'

The club of 'work in progress' happens to be the story of my life. And no matter how many times I hear "take one day at a time, " "do what you can," and "control the controllables," there is still a piece of me that wants to move mountains until I hit my financial, physical, and life goals. 

It's madness. 

What I've recently learned is that you can't lean too much on institutions (religious, educational, or corporate). You must trust the process of your work and don't be afraid to fail because with the attempt you learn a whole heck-of-a-lot about yourself.

You must believe that the journey is ultimately yours. You have to own the good and bad times (just ask Nasty Gal founder, Sophia Amoruso). 

When I was laid off from my fancy job in the oil and gas industry a couple of years ago, the boss gave a riveting lecture about the benefits of starting a new chapter paired with Warren Buffet quotes. At the time I thought, sheesh, I don't think this is the time to be spouting off your favorite bookmarked quotes when six people just lost their job, but it taught me that nothing is permanent. And until I take full control of my dreams, my business, and my future I will always be at the mercy of someone else's. 

It's fine to work for people if that is your thing but remember when the going get's tough you may be laid off. 

Find your thing. 

I read. I write. I watch documentaries on Netflix. I engage people in the pursuit to discover more about myself and my likes and dislikes. 

And then I focus, at least try to, on just that. On just the new nugget that has inspired something in me until the next gem comes along. 

I discovered a Facebook Live interview with Mark Manson, New York Times best-selling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k. I believe he has some pretty cool and honest things to say. Check him out! 



The Pursuit of Meaningful Work



Instead of who do you love? I like to sometimes ask what do you love? Are you living and enjoying that? If you only had six months to live what would you do?

These are such big, emotional, and substantial questions but they matter. They matter and they are practical if you look at them from the small moment in time you are here. Hang with me. It felt like yesterday, I was 23 years old and in two weeks I will be 30. 

Where has the time gone? Who stole it from me and how can I get it back?

The truth is I will never get the time back. I heard someone say that after your twentieth birthday you spend the rest of your life in reflection. So the questions of what do you love and if you only had six months to live what would you do are valid questions.

Yes, there are pieces of green paper in your wallet to worry about. Your kids who you have spoiled are now teenagers who want you to provide their every desire. There also is that gas-monster SUV you bought last year because you thought Frank, your next door neighbor, would say hi more or his wife Lisa would take notice of your upward mobility. All wrong reasons to have enslaved yourself.

The first step to answering those questions I posed earlier is to take baby steps toward your freedom. 

You must decide you want to be free and then free yourself. Not of the people, but of the things that have enslaved you and the people you love. In pursuit of meaning work, you have no other choice. You have no choice but to free yourself from what you cannot take with you into the next life. Sorry, to get morbid on you but it's the truth and the truth is better than a lie. 

My mother said she cried when she turned thirty. I am not sure why.

I shall do no such thing. Today, with my life, I am only in search of that which fuels me. I hope to loose track of time in this daily pursuit. In an attempt to look back over my life and smile.

You have a choice. Continue down the course of least resistance or decide to view your life as a short adventure. The challenge it will take to chart a new course will be hard but remember this is an adventure. You have everything to gain.

What do you say?