Instead of who do you love? I like to sometimes ask what do you love? Are you living and enjoying that? If you only had six months to live what would you do?
These are such big, emotional, and substantial questions but they matter. They matter and they are practical if you look at them from the small moment in time you are here. Hang with me. It felt like yesterday, I was 23 years old and in two weeks I will be 30.
Where has the time gone? Who stole it from me and how can I get it back?
The truth is I will never get the time back. I heard someone say that after your twentieth birthday you spend the rest of your life in reflection. So the questions of what do you love and if you only had six months to live what would you do are valid questions.
Yes, there are pieces of green paper in your wallet to worry about. Your kids who you have spoiled are now teenagers who want you to provide their every desire. There also is that gas-monster SUV you bought last year because you thought Frank, your next door neighbor, would say hi more or his wife Lisa would take notice of your upward mobility. All wrong reasons to have enslaved yourself.
The first step to answering those questions I posed earlier is to take baby steps toward your freedom.
You must decide you want to be free and then free yourself. Not of the people, but of the things that have enslaved you and the people you love. In pursuit of meaning work, you have no other choice. You have no choice but to free yourself from what you cannot take with you into the next life. Sorry, to get morbid on you but it's the truth and the truth is better than a lie.
My mother said she cried when she turned thirty. I am not sure why.
I shall do no such thing. Today, with my life, I am only in search of that which fuels me. I hope to loose track of time in this daily pursuit. In an attempt to look back over my life and smile.
You have a choice. Continue down the course of least resistance or decide to view your life as a short adventure. The challenge it will take to chart a new course will be hard but remember this is an adventure. You have everything to gain.
What do you say?